Young businesspeople with boxing gloves having a fight isolatedWhen it comes to grumbling in the office, the experts say, more people grumble about their co-workers than complain about their jobs.

Some don’t approve of the co-worker who spends a lot of time going from desk to desk to visit and gossip. Others say a workaholic is most aggravating because he or she is obsessed with every detail.

Then there’s the boss who is a narcissist and makes it all about him or her, all the time and takes all the bows, giving little credit to the underlings.

Sadly, you can’t pick your co-workers but, happily, you can pick your response to them.

In a 2006 study of more than 100 CEOs, researchers at Penn State found that executive narcissism can motivate those who learn to delight in the boss’s praise and who make their own contributions subtly known.

Peggy Drexler, an author and assistant professor of psychology at Weill Cornell Medical College, says the office gossip isn’t as bad as you might think. A study by the University of Amsterdam shows that 90 percent of office conversation qualifies as gossip. But the researchers also say this type of chatter relieves pressure, makes offices run more smoothly and improves productivity, keeping underperforming workers in line and fostering camaraderie.